Relationships are hard enough. But for a person living with mental health challenges, even the thought of starting and maintaining a romantic relationship can be overwhelming. The writer Allison Raskin knows this firsthand, and in this brilliantly forthright and humorous book she provides clear-cut advice on how to form healthy dating habits when you have anxiety, OCD, and/or depression. And that can be a lot of people. One in five Americans will experience a mental illness in any given year, and among younger people—Generation Z and Millennials—the numbers are significantly higher.
Part memoir, part self-help book, and filled with action steps, Overthinking About You is compellingly readable and relatable, packed with hard-won honest truths on the highs and lows of dating and deeply grounded in the latest thinking from clinical psychologists and dating experts. There’s wisdom on every page: How and why to avoid mis-labeling thoughts as facts. The impact of SSRIs. Why the way you talk about something is just as important as what you are talking about. Even why dating multiple people at once is a good way to help alleviate anxiety and prevent you from putting too much pressure on one relationship. It’s all here, from meeting online to how to handle a breakup, from recognizing and avoiding unhealthy relationships to the big one, sex.
The net result is hope. By the end of this book you’ll know Allison Raskin as well as your best friend and will believe her own greatest truth: Don’t give up on yourself, and don’t give up on love.